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Emotions vs., feelings, and why does it matter?

Updated: Oct 14, 2023

Over the years I have studied emotions and feelings inside and out.

...and what I can tell you that after having employed thousands, and, eventually tens of thousands, and finally, arriving at over one hundred thousand men and women employed, young, medium and old in age, is that I have come up with a theory, and my theory is as follows.

You and I are "hard wired" by an emotion and that emotion controls our lives via our feelings!

We ALL have a Home Row Emotion!

...and it controls our lives every day, via our feelings!!!

Emagine there are only 6 Primary Emotions and You and I are Controlled by ONE of them.

6 Primary EMOTIONS, what one CONTROLS your life daily?

1). Angry

2). Sadness

3). Disgust

4). Surprise

5). Fear

6). Happiness

What do I mean by that, hard wired by an emotion, or home row emotion?

Well, here we go..., and I have a "Home Row Emotion, as I mentioned above"!

We are guided,

...we are controlled, a single emotion!

...that rules our feelings!!!


Now, say to yourself about now,


Oh, by the way, my name is Bret Martin, and I am the CEO and Founder of Mom-and-Pop Business Funding.

Let me go on here,

...sorry for the interruption.

You and I have only 6 choices on what emotion DRIVES us, and those 6 emotions are, Fear, Anger, Disgust, surprise and happiness and that's it!

So that said, pick one!

...what EMOTION rules you?

What EMOTION rules your Mom?

What one rules or drives your father?

Which one of the 6 emotions drives or rules your sister and your brother, or your wife or your husband?

Which one of the 6 primary emotions rule you?

I have found that once we LOOK at others, we start to see that they seem to always have the same emotion that rules them and then naturally, they have the feelings associated with that emotion!!!

Because if you don't know this, you need to know this and that is this!

...feelings come AFTER an emotion!!!

...EMOTIONS rule feelings!

...EMOTIONS rule us!

So why do your emotions matter?

...well, think about it, the feelings you are having all day every day are associated and secondary to your emotions!

You and I are actually the by-product of our feelings due to our foundation in a certain emotion!

This is sobering stuff when you think about it, when you explore it!

We CAN NOT have a HIGH functioning day, nor a HIGH functioning life personally while rooted in the FEELINGS of one of the emotions that provides a negative connotation to our very lives!!!

Imagine that or this,

CHANGE your emotion, CHANGE your feelings, CHANGE your functionality in life!!!

Emotions come first, then feelings come after as the emotion chemicals go to work in our bodies.

Then moods develop from a combination of feelings.

Emotions are chemicals released in response to our interpretation of a specific trigger.

You can't make this stuff up, it becomes surreal once you see it, but your friend's and family and the people you come in contact with each and every day, are CONTROLLED by their EMOTION that is their HOME ROW EMOTION!

So USE your head today,

...and make sure YOU are controlled by the proper emotion you want to feed your feelings, as you only has 6 primary emotions which doesn't sound like many, but let's face it, they are each so much more different than the others!!!

Have a great day!


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Unknown member
May 08

WTH is this picture - looks disgusting? What am I looking at please and what does it have to do with loans?


Becky Valencia
Becky Valencia
Jan 09

Bret Martin, CEO and Founder, I'm happy to report that Happiness rules my life and feelings. Thanks for the insight.


Southern Art
Oct 30, 2023



Kourosh  Eslamieh
Kourosh Eslamieh
Oct 29, 2023

That is correct Bert. It makes so much sense. I am sure everyone wants to feel good, which stems from the happiness emotions until some how one of the other emotions give us a challenge to overcome!

Thank you.

Bret Martin
Bret Martin
Oct 29, 2023
Replying to

Amen to that, you've got it right!!! It is so interesting how many people are controlled by or centered around one of the 6 primary emotions and yet they rarely distance themselves from that one emotion as they seem to nourish it, even though in most cases the very emotion they are rooted in is their problem. Thanks again for stopping by sir! Have a great rest of your day!!!


Bret Martin, CEO and FOUNDER of Mom-and-Pop Business Funding.

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